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cocaine husband

Lockdown has been hard and all of the issues you experienced have been worsen.

I am sorry to hear that things have been extremely difficult for you and you wee boy.

In respect of legal route I don’t think you will have any issues with ironing out a supervised plan maybe use a Contact Centre.

Woman Aid have an outreach service that will support and understand exactly “where you are coming from” and the fears you expressed. They will be able to advise re: lawyers too.

In addition its website also have a great Freedom Programme that you can do online too.

It sounds like your husband is emotional abusive and controlling and all that blame will “Get to you” eroding your self confidence and belief in yourself.

As for the cocaine husband- its impossible to reason with someone who is “out their face” or live is “a drug/cocaine”.

I think you will need to time to-morn the man you loved and lost (so to speak). Mourn the dreams you had of a happy life together.

And remind yourself none of this is your fault. You are worth so much more.

And keep posting

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Thank you for your reply. I will check out that freedom programme and womens aid. I gave been recommended womens aid in my area but hadn’t had the courage to go yet.

You are right about needing to mourn my old life and husband. I have felt a lot like he died which is horrible when you live together. I hate looking at old pictures and remembering our life. Things were not always perfect but we knew we loved each other and we were so happy when we had our son. Now he says things like he never wanted a child and makes out that our life before was horrible. I think once I found out he was taking cocaine in july last year I actually felt better because before that I had over 2 years of him telling me that all his problems were his work, me and our son and i believed him and tried to make things better but of course i couldn’t.

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If you go down the correct route m. Harassment police etc you will get legal aid anyway. Regardless if you work they will support you as you are a victim of domestic abuse. I wish you luck with it.

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