[pink321]

Please help. I have been with my partner for 9 years, we have a daughter and I am pregnant. My partner used to drink and use cocaine daily until he ended up being physically violent with me and he was that disgusted in himself everything stopped. He hasn’t had a drink for 3 years now but I found out he was using cocaine again about a year ago and he has spiralled out of control, I have stuck by him hoping he could change but I have recently found messages from another girl from a gmail sexting account (personally I don’t think it’s a real person), I tried to move past that over the last week and then found a plenty of fish account on his phone (fake name) where he has messaged literally every account going, and asked for Snapchat names so he has been using that too. I went absolutely mad at him, he promised to stop everything, said all he wants is his family and he’s an idiot and he has only logged into these accounts when he’s been on coke. I want to know what has happened to the person who used to worship the ground I walked on and is the sexting really the coke? I never ever thought he would ever cheat on me, especially while I’m pregnant. I feel absolutely broken and have made him to go his mums but I can’t help but think of him constantly messaging these accounts still.

[willbebetter123]

As a guy with a cocaine habit, I get excited that way and message girls, but I’m single. If I was with someone I loved which is have been, I wouldn’t do that, especially to the mother of my child, cocaine or not

[georgina1234]

OMG Pink321. I am going through the exact same thing. I just found out that my partner has been contacting escorts behind my back. I’m 6 months pregnant with our first child. I am absolutely devastated (understatement). He is a serious alcoholic, it’s to the point where it is life threatening. The revelation of me finding out has lead to him feeling a lot of shame which has resulted in the biggest bender you can imagine and he has now lost his job. In the space of two week my entire world has collapsed. After all this I have the added stress that he may now commit suicide because I have left him. I love him so much. All I want is sober him. But I feel like I have lost him completely. I can’t fathom being a single Mum without him but I feel that me and the baby will be in danger if I keep him in my life. URGH! I really feel your pain. Hate that someone else might be going through this too.

[pink321]

I am so sorry you have to deal with this, you’re going through what should be the most exciting time of your life! does your partner have somewhere to go where you can be assured he is with somebody? I decided I had to end things with my partner and it’s been 3 weeks now. I never ever thought I would be able to get to this point but I just knew after the sexting etc it was the last straw and I knew it was something I personally would never get over, it hurts me too much that he would do that after every thing else I have put up with for so many years. Luckily for me he is back with his parents so I know he sort of has somebody keeping an eye on him. Although they can’t recognise when he has used. I must say I can now go to sleep at night without worrying about him being sat downstairs doing coke, I get up and do things with my daughter as I know it’s just me and her now and I’m not waiting around for him to roll out of bed mid afternoon and to then get let down cos he’s fragile and angry anyway. I can’t say it’s easy going from having a family to being a single mum, it’s been a rollercoaster of emotions so far but I know I did all I could for him and sometimes that’s just not enough. All I can hope is that he continues to be there for our children. Please do believe in yourself though, it is so traumatic being with somebody going through addiction, you’re watching somebody you love turn into somebody you just don’t recognise anymore and it’s terribly sad and hard on you, you spend your life hoping and praying things get better. Try to focus on you and your little one, maybe one day he will be able to get clean and be around for you both but dont put your life on hold waiting my lovely xx

[scousecharlie]

Is there any reasons why he was drinking and sniffing every night ?

[lirpa3]

Hi there

I am going through the same thing. I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 10 years now and he hasn’t had a problem with drugs until recently this year. I found tons of cocaine baggies in his room and in his car but he denied that they were his. Instead he told me had been buying prescription drugs (xanax etc) from a buddy from work and he would occasionally snort them. But I continue to to find coke baggies and he keeps denying it. I’ve looked through his phone and have see he is messaging girls on only fans and on snap chat. He says he’ll stop but he continues to do it. He seemed like he was back to his regular self a couple weeks ago but this week I can tell he’s been doing coke. He’s all congested and I keep finding bloody tissues all over the place. When I ask him to take a drug test, he says he will because he’s not on drugs…but when it comes to him taking it he says “I’ll do it later, I don’t have to pee right now”.

I’m so anxious and on edge around him all the time because I know he’s lying to me constantly. I’m at my breaking point and I don’t know what to do anymore

[pink321]

It is such a hard situation but unfortunately with coke comes a lot of lies. One thing I would say is you will know when you’re done and you’re ready to walk away and nobody can tell you to do so until you have that. For me it took a lot to accept that I was never going to be able change him or help him. My ex has already started sleeping with someone else so this has showed me I made the right decision even though it’s very painful. Sometimes you just have to put yourself first, I hope things get better for you whatever you decide

[scousecharlie]

Regardless of having coke and drinking in the past I’d never cheat but I was always open to my exs and would never lie to them, unfortunately they just sound like bad eggs and the coke is probs mixed with some type of weird legal high making them wanna stick their dirty thing in anything dirty also, disgusting, they’ll both stink too

[Anonymous]

Like a said guys and girls message me I’ve posted in most discussions you’ll know more about me then I might be able to help

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