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Hello there,

My mother has been drinking for my whole life, I am now 30 years old. She has good and bad weeks, but when its bad its awful. She lies constantly, I can’t trust a word she says and its so frustrating. Although I don’t live with her I have to care for her during lockdown and drop shopping etc as she is vulnerable and shielding (probably making things worse). I tend to cope by distancing myself from her, I have set boundaries – that she is not to phone when she is drunk, however with everything going on at the moment I am unable to get away from it if i turn up with her shopping and she is drunk/phone her to check on her and she is drunk. She gets angry and aggressive, shes a completely different person after she’s had a drink. Its been a struggle my whole life but its starting to take its toll on me now, I leave so angry and unhappy. I have never reached out for help before but I have reached a new low and wondered if anyone has any coping mechanisms for dealing with their anger and frustration caused in similar situations. I can’t help her, she is in denial, but I would like to look for different ways to help myself cope with the way it makes me feel being around her.

Thank you.

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