[cwca24]

I’m sure many people are going through what I’m going through but I have got to the point I no longer know what to do for the best.

My partner of 6 years (first boyfriend) has a serious crack addiction he disappears for weeks on end and I hear nothing until he returns then he will shower get changed and disappear again.

We have 2 children together and I’m finding it very difficult to just turn my back on him I want to help him get through this but on the flip side I’m left with our children and searching the streets to try find him and it feels like he doesn’t care.

I just feel helpless lost and don’t have any hope for the future right now just see a life of disappointment and I know he can’t help having an addiction just don’t know what to do

[kel1]

Did he have an addiction when you first met him?

There really isn’t anything you can do for him as he needs to want to sort himself out for himself. I’ve seen this time and time again where peoples lives are destroyed by drugs, and poor family members suffer tremendously. I’m sorry you’re feeling this way, but a life with a crack user is no picnic, and it will destroy you eventually.

If he isn’t willing to get the help he needs then you’re going to need to leave and safeguard your children.

Crack addiction is powerful and he would need a lot of determination to get thru this, however at the moment he doesn’t seem willing.

Please don’t walk the streets looking for him as that’s so dangerous, and you don’t know who and what you will bump into. For example, what if he owes a dealer money? What if then they follow you home? Maybe he goes away from the home so that that life don’t impact on your family!

As heartbreaking as it sounds you have to put you and the kids first now and prepare yourself for changes.

Big hugs

[cwca24]

No didn’t have an addiction when I first met him and I don’t understand where it came from or how long it’s been going on for.

He slowly started changing as a person, his appearance, lost his job started stealing from us and his parents to find his habit.

We have not long had our second child where he nearly missed the birth as he was no where to be seen days previous until someone dragged him to the hospital.

It’s a really difficult situation but he just seems to be on another world. Thank you for your advice 🙂

[kel1]

Well, this is an assumption, but it could have started as Cocaine ( sniffing) – it’s same substance mixed up differently. Usually they try crack as it’s cheaper! Could be that, but then again only he can answer all those questions you have. However, addicts lie. It’s crap situation you’re in and i know how hard it is. I’ve been there! You will get thru this eventually. I hate drugs, absolutely destroys everything!

It changes them into people we no longer recognize I understand that. And they become monsters/ selfish monsters.

I’m here if you need to talk. Al another are good support also if you require additional support

[cwca24]

Thank you very much!

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