[what-to-do]

I have just found out that my 19 year old daughter is taking cocaine . Just found out two days ago and my world has turned upside down. I don’t know how to feel. I feel like I’m living in a different reality. She lied at first because I’ve asked her before if her boyfriend takes drugs and she said no but we now know he does. She lied when I asked if she did but we now know that’s true. So I don’t feel I can believe anything she says. She probably lied when she tells me she just did it once and will never do it again and neither will he. She drives. And I’m worried sick she’ll drive under the influence and cause death to her and/or someone else. I’ve tried to read up on cocaine and it’s scary. Could have heart attack. She’s got very thin lately, spotty. Runs out of money, seems very on edge all the time, and. Very tired. It’s affecting her job, this is all so new to me I would really appreciate any advice anyone can give on how I deal with this, both how to help her and how to function myself , because I feel physically ill with the stress, thank you

[lindyloo]

Hi whattodo, welcome to the forum. Everyone here has a loved one with an addiction and also there are people in recovery offering advice and support.

The forum has a homepage with support as does the Icarus trust.

I know what you’re going through, it’s your child and you feel helpless.

My 28yr son has dabbled with alcohol and cocaine around 10yrs. The tell tale signs were all there, no cash, borrowing, missing work, looking unkempt, room like a tip, uncaring, argumentative..etc.

He confronted him 18mths ago, he reached out for help. He attended AA, CA and NA meetings daily, met others, got support, started a 12 step program, got a sponsor. He managed 3 months clean. Unfortunately he’s had a few relapses, but I believe this is normal. He got medication for anxiety from doctor.

I would read the other threads, click onto ‘share your story ‘ and read Theresa thread, we are all mums with sons who have addictions, and we all support each other and offer advice.

Please don’t feel alone in this nightmare.

Unfortunately, it begins and ends with the addict. They have to admit that they need help, usually when they hit rock bottom.

Don’t blame yourself either, find things to help you cope, a walk, meditation, vent here. Someone will always reply, i know people have been kind and supportive to me.

Take care,

Lx

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