[sjc5]

Please can someone advise. I am so worried about my friend. Her son is 23 and has a severe cocaine addiction. He totally refuses help from anyone or any professional organisation. This has gone on for at least 6yrs. The doctors are not interested as he won’t engage. He is violent towards her most days. Verbally abusing her and pushes her over in front of her 14yr old. Dad has had enough and has left the home and she is stuck with it. He paces around the house daily. Searching through cupboards/drawers for money for more. He is in and out the house constantly. She has in the past phoned the police because of the threat to end his life. A & E discharged him within a few hours. My friend is at breaking point. I am really worried for her. She’s terrified in her own home. She been to CA meetings etc but he doesn’t want help. She’s stuck and terrified. He refuses to leave and she so scared for herself and younger son. What options does she have? Please can someone help?

[lindyloo]

Hi sjc5

Welcome to the forum, thank you for sharing your friend’s story.

Living with a loved one with an addiction is a Living nightmare.

It’s good that she has a friend like you who is so supportive.

I have a 29yr son who has alcohol and cocaine addictions since he was 15. Thankfully he’s currently 1yr into his recovery. So I have some experience of what addiction can do to a family.

Can I suggest that you click on to “share your story ” and read the Theresa thread. There are several mums on there offering support and advice. Also, the adfam homepage, Drugfam and Icarus trust also offer counselling and support for families.

Please stay strong for her, and she has to look out for herself and her other child. He needs to know that he’s still loved, but needs boundaries if he’s to live at home.

Take care, ❤️

Lx

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