[danman83]

Hope your ok.. i know what your going through as i have put my gf through all this. Well not all. I never had it were it got us in debt. He must be having a hell of a lot.

Ive lapsed a couple of times this year. But i cant stand the stuff and i am doing my best to stop.

1st of all cocaine makes you so depressed and suicidal coming down off it.. its terrible. I know a few people that have commited suicide through it. This is why i am.doing my best to stop.

Obv your husband knows how to stop.as he has been to meetings.. but my main trigger is alcohol.. so i do my best not to drink.. does he drink? He needs quit altogether.

And your in a bad situation.. u kick him out. He does something bad.. you dont forgive yourself.. or he stays and carrys on taking the piss…

I can only suggest.. you sit him down may be with his fam as well..and lay it down to him 1 last chance he gets help.. and thats it.. even try a hypnotist. Im doing that after my hol..

How much is he having if 1500 is going missing… were is he having it? Is he on his own having it?

Tell him downlad an app called pocket rehab. Its great

[danman83]

Plus if you are struggling now.. barely feeding the kids.. ill let rip at him.. and set some boundarys now.. and he needs stick to them.. at the end of the day.. your going to have to do tough love. Your kids come 1st. I know i have a problem as well. But all my bills get paid. And everything for the kids 1st.

Tell your hubby and you if you want.. this month ive downloaded castbox. Download it! Its all different podcast.. but search the alan charles show.. every episode he talks about his 24 year addiction to coke.. how hes been clean for 11 years.. all his mad storys.. he even had a woman on today.. talking from your point of view.. and what to do in your situation..

Theres loads of cocaine podcast.. these help me alot. And keep my mind occupied

Listening to cocaine recovery stories helps alot.

But what ever you do its your decision.. but my opinion.. you cant keep having him taking the piss out of you if he is missing bills and you are stuggling.

Can you not have all his wage put into your account from now on?

Feel free to ask me anything

[mumtothree]

Thank you so much for responding. I really appreciate and take in everything you have said.

His parents don’t want no involvement with him anymore. They are absolutely disgusted what he has put his family through to the point there’s no money to pay the bills or feed the children. I will ask if they would be prepared to sit down with me and him but I can’t see it happening. I’ll let you know.

The problem is I sat him down this same time last month and laid it all out in the line. I said there’s no more back ups, both parents have helped us out financially to just buy food and household bits but they’ve now both stretched themselves to their limits (they’re all retired). I said if he didn’t start getting the proper help and show me an improvement in this months wage then that’s it. I can’t afford to have him here anymore. I’m not naive and understand it’s going to take time but there was literally no improvement at all this month. For the last 9 months I’ve been given him another chance to sort it out but it’s still not happening. I feel like I don’t have a choice anymore.

When you started going to your meetings how long did it take you to stop. I know you’ve had a few relapses since but initially when did you stop and how did you feel when you did? Sorry to ask what is probably such a personal thing.

Oh my husband does drink. He’ll quite happily drink 4 ciders every evening but he says he uses during the day rather than at night. He doesn’t really have any friends so doesn’t go out after work or at weekends. If his work found out he’d immediately get the sack due to his job.

Oh and he pays his wages straight into my account on my payday but he pays off a by at he owes first. Personally I don’t understand why anyone would be happy to lend that sort of money on a monthly basis. I always thought you had to pay for drugs when you get it. Is that right?

Thank you again for helping!!

[mumtothree]

Sorry I meant he pays off whoever he owes first

[danman83]

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[danman83]

I didnt go to meetings. I went to one on one councilling sessions and learned techniques how to quit.. it helps alot more when you really want to quit.. you can put it in front of me now and i wouldnt want it.

Plus.. your hubby needs knock everything on the head btw.. the drinking wont help.. when mixed with coke.. it forms another drug in the body.. i forgot what its called now. Basically its worse with beer.

It sounds like hes really stuck in a rut ajd only has you..

[danman83]

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[danman83]

Im trying to send a big message bit it wont let me

[danman83]

But if u give him a chance. Sit him down.. swear your head off at him.. tell him these are the rules.. thats fuking it now! U change your life around or im gone.. simple as.. and help him if he decides to. I know its hard.

But this is all i can suggest. He really does need to want to quit tho

[had-enough-now]

Hi , I have just joined this site last night for the same reason . Your story almost mimicks mine .

Like you I don’t know were to turn or what to do .

The drug dealers have threatened to come to our house too .

It’s so sad to hear your story but for once I don’t feel like I’m so alone going through this situation .

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