[joanne23]

My son is a cocaine addict, he’s got himself into terrible debt and just can’t seem to shake his habit.

I have recently been to counselling to try and understand what he is going through and they advised not to keep paying his debts (which we have done several times previously) and letting him take responsibility for his own life.

It’s got to the point where I’m all out of ideas, he’s been going to nhs counselling but it just seems he’s drawn back into it and no matter how bad it’s getting financially he just goes back for more.

We have asked him to stay at home and not mix with the circle of friends he has got himself into, just don’t know what to do next my husband is so close to kicking him out

[danman83]

Hi joanne.. i have the same problem as your son. But i hate coke. And i quit on new years ever. Then lapsed 2 month after.. then lapsed 6 week later which was this friday..

The main thing is joanne.. does your son want to quit? He needs be 100% that he wants to. This is the start he needs.

The next and this is what i do and it helps.

Delete every coke dealer, friends who have coke, family who have coke out his phone. Block.them as well.

Dont drink alcohol as this is a main trigger for picking coke up. Stay away from pubs, partys, house partys.

He will need to take hobbies up to keep him focused.

Watch louise clarke on you tube on crack-cocaine part 123 shes helped me alot watching her videos. .

Its ok to kick your son out. But do you want to see him get worse? If hes robbing off you.. fair enough.. but he needs support and guidence . But thats my own opinion. Maybe lay some ground rules. Like.. he has to stay in fri and sats for a month just so he gets off it. Just an idea. Good luck ask me anything if you need help

[joanne23]

Thank you for taking time to respond. It’s been helpful the problem is he’s spending money he doesn’t have on it, and things are getting very serious. He says he wants to stop but the cravings he gets for it are strong and that he struggles. I have shown him your response I think it’s good that he has other people’s views as well as mine. You’re suggestions are good. I am sorry you had a lapse on Friday, but it doesn’t mean you have to give up I hope you can remain strong and just make this a blip in your recovery

[joanne23]

Thank you for taking time to respond. It’s been helpful the problem is he’s spending money he doesn’t have on it, and things are getting very serious. He says he wants to stop but the cravings he gets for it are strong and that he struggles. I have shown him your response I think it’s good that he has other people’s views as well as mine. You’re suggestions are good. I am sorry you had a lapse on Friday, but it doesn’t mean you have to give up I hope you can remain strong and just make this a blip in your recovery

[danman83]

It is only just a blip. Ive cut every one off. But the urges are bad like your son says. He just needs to plan ahead and know when they are coming.

Tell him to download that app. He can press an emergency button anytime he thinks hes going to use and it puts u to another addict or ex.. who talks you round. Its great. Good luck

[joanne23]

Thank you I will do

[icarus-trust]

Hi Joanne,

Thanks for sharing your story. I know that you have had counselling but if you would like any more support for yourself please contact us at The Icarus Trust. We are a charity that supports people who are going through what you are doing as we know how difficult it is. If you contact us I can put you in touch with one of our experienced and trained people that might help to know what to do next.

You can contact us on help@icarustrust.org or visit the website http://www.icarustrust.org

Good luck.

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