[thistim3]

So scary and lonely. I remember.  First of all, get resources from your family, church, neighborhood, etc, to take care and protect  your children and yourself.  Report him missing, so there are people looking for him.  Do you have a family member or trusted friend who can come stay with you or you and your children can stay with?  If and when he does show up, it might not be safe for you and your children to be around him.  Looking back on my own situation, I would have changed the locks on the doors and not let him in until he was in recovery.  You can’t fix him. You can’t save him.  But you can save your children and yourself.  Reach out to trusted sources now.  Don’t wait any longer.  You must prepare yourself and figure out a way to provide for your children and yourself.  Awful that you have to go through this.  Prayers.

[hayleyT]

I really do feel for you , I agree with above report him missing for sure , he might even get some help when found ,, directed to services etc , he’s vulnerable so state that on the phone when reporting him as missing I can’t imagine how worrying it is for you and how hard it is to keep going with three kids to look after too .. you’re priority is you and your children and you have to look after all your needs first .  Does he have family that you could talk to ? Crack cocaine isn’t particularly physically addictive so it wouldn’t take long for him to be clean from it and he could do that without help but the mental support is definitely what he needs to deal with whats at the root of his addiction . And he needs to be fully commited to over coming it to engage with that . Look after yourself and your children first and get some real support in place . A lot of drug support places locally do have support for family members and it might help to talk to someone face to face x

[jo@adaptoxford.org.uk]

Hello,

Im sorry to hear things are so difficult for you right now. The Icarus family program can offer support and advice. You can find the self referral at Referrals – ADAPT Charity Oxford (adaptoxford.org.uk) .

Take care

Jo

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