[cant-take-no-more]

Oh no, but the good thing about this you knew what to look for!!! So he has relapsed…He needs to get back on the horse, and go back to the meetings….Its really important that even when he isnt doing drugs he continues to go for the added support….For the time being if you can , perhaps you watch the finances…which means not giving him his card or anything where he can get another payday loan…….its is hard, but if you and the kids are important to him, he will see its for the best….He really is lucky to have you, I think you need to be tough on him now……HE CAN STOP, cause he has done before…its a relapse….. hugs hunni xxx

[lauren09]

Thank you. He finally admitted it. He swore he never bought any but saw some kids doing some in a toilet & got some off them. I don’t believe him 100%. What I’m realising is how many people do it. How many of his friends are doing it… And these are all good people with decent jobs & family’s. There not kids anymore experimenting! I’ve asked him to go to meetings & I don’t want him seeing he’s friends anymore in that environment when they are all drinking etc. He’s obviously not ready & I’m tracking he’s finances even more. I’ve told him I want receipts of everything he buys so I can see when he’s being getting cash back & what it’s getting spent on. If he can’t do that then I’m taking his bank card from him. I know he wants to stop & I know he wants to do the best by us. I just really hope he can.

[cant-take-no-more]

Lauren, many professional people take drugs, it has no social conscience…….I found out my son was doing drugs over 4 years ago…..our family have been through the mill…what I will say is people who take drugs LIE….They will tell you anything they think you want to hear…..my son has stolen , lied and been abusive…….I really hope your partner goes back to counselling, and gets through this relapse….Be strong, and dont give an inch……hugs to you xxx

[lauren09]

Thank you. I’m discovering more & more how much he lies…. I don’t know if I can do this anymore with him. It feels like his mums just turned her back on him while I’m left living this nightmare of questioning everything he does, checking every bit of money. We argue a lot & some of the arguments get quite nasty. Some days I just want out…. But I feel trapped. I don’t feel there’s anywhere me & the kids can go and he will never leave… He said he’ll go back to the meetings but it’s always half hearted & he seems to find ways out of not going. Does it ever stop the questioning and self doubt of what there up to? He makes me feel like I’m dramatising everything & I’m over exaggerating about it all. He played so many mind games when he was using, he made me feel like everything was my fault. Like I was the reason he was in a foul mood, or I was lieing to him about whatever…. I want the kids to have their dad around but not if he goes back using. But so much has happened between us, some days I just hate him so much & he makes out he hates me. I hate the kids witnessing this kind of relationship. I know I need to be strong & I appreciate your replys. I just struggle some days wondering if I’m strong enough to deal with this. Xx

[cant-take-no-more]

Hi Lauren sorry its been a while…….don’t ever ignore your gut instinct, because its almost always right…What he does when he minimise’s his addiction is make himself feel like he doesnt have a problem….And blaming others is what addicts do…..DONT TAKE IT….Its his problem, his addiction and you are not dramatising anything…..Your children are whats important in all of this. Is there anyone you can stay with for a few days just to get your head together????? What I will say is an addict should not be around children…thats my personal view…my son has a son, and ive told him if he is ever around his son when doing drugs, then I WILL go to social services….now as his mother thats hard to say, but his son deserves so much more…..Thankfully when ever he has been on a drug fuelled mission, he stays away….Come on Lauren, you can stay strong…your children need you to be the best parent you can be……..here if you need anything hunni xxxxxx

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