[kelly265]

My boyfriends drinking is ruining our life but won’t not want to stop or reduce it. He has lost 8 jobs over the last 3 .5 years through missing days at work etc, he sought help once but lied to the NHS counsellor about the amount he was drinking and passed the blood test for liver function after not drinking for 1 day! He won’t go back as does not want to lose his driving licence. He drinks whilst driving when not working and I have chucked him out due to repeating this.

I am working long hours to continue to pay for everything and he chips in now and then for a bit of shopping. I’m very resentful about this. After the latest drama I packed his stuff and asked him to collect it but he is begging me to take him back saying I’m the only. Good thing I’m his life etc. Want to be strong, I’m down to very little money and cannot support him as well or lend him money for drink or diesel. Feel very low but not sure he’s ver going to change. Sad thing is he’s only 27.

[tutu]

This is an awful.situation to be in.

Im in a similar position and the financial implications have an affect on everything but they do not care as long as their own need is fulfilled. I have decided to leave him after a very long time as I feel theres no hope for him ever recovering whilst he is not standing on his own 2 feet.

[kelly265]

I think you are right, he will look after himself and make sure he has the 14-16 units he needs a day. His has family locally they are heavy drinkers as well part of the issue. I’m here on my own so I need to make sure I keep the roof over my head and can go to work I missed Friday afternoon, I started to cry and could not stop so had to leave.

[kelly265]

I am so alone! he’s asleep in the box room after throwing up, drinking all afternoon on an empty stomach. He even came to my work and it’s soul destroying to see him like this. We had two days of no drinking and I had my partner back, now I co e home to this!

[icarus-trust]

Hi Kelly

Thank you for posting. I’m so sorry that things are so tough for you because of your partner’s drinking. I know it’s a really hard thing to deal with and maybe you would like to talk with someone who would understand what you are going through.

I work for a charity called The Icarus Trust. We provide support for friends and family members of people with addictive behaviours. If you contact us we could put you in touch with one of trained and experienced people who might be able to offer you some help.

You can contact us on help@icarustrust.org or visit the website http://www.icarustrust.org

I hope that this helps. Good luck!

The Icarus Trust

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