[danman83]

Hiya hope your OK. I’m 3 month clean from coke after about 11 year addiction. You quit coke yourself so there is no point in me telling you certain things.

Him now going to crack dens is 1 big slippery slope from here. He needs to knock it on the head ASAP. All it takes is some 1 to offer him heroin next. I joined CA anonymous 3 month ago and I’ve been clean since it’s been the beat thing I did. Tell him he needs to get to some meetings. But this is all down to him. He needs to want to quit.

Regarding you staying with him. My opinion is.. If he’s not prepared to quit and stop dissapering and he’s not putting the effort in. Do you want to stay with him living like this day in day out. Making you mentally and physically ill. Sit him down and have a good amicable chat with him. And come up with some recovery plan. But make sure he wants to mainly.

[sarah008]

Hi Danman,

Hope your ok and we’ll done for being clean for 3 months especially after 11years. You should be really proud of yourself!

Thanks for your reply, even by just confirming some of what I already thought I feel at least I’m not going crazy. Sometimes as the non user you question your rationale and wonder if you’re being unreasonable.

Hope you don’t mind me asking but what was it you think helped going to the CA meetings? My partners said in the past he would worry he would just meet more people to potentially do drugs with and it could be an added temptation. Half of me thinks this is just an excuse not to go or because he’s ashamed and embarrassed.

[danman83]

Thanks for that.

Basically they are on zoom for now through CA website, there are some face 2 face now though. U sit and listen to other addicts, some have years clean time, some have less, some have just relapsed. You listen to the similarities in there stories and you relate to them. You swap numbers and part of the 12 steps is to text or phone at least 3 to 5 people each day. Talking to other addicts work. You get a sponsor aswell who u work the steps and you phone them everyday. And when u feel like using,And they talk u out of it. And trust me it works!

U don’t have to talk at 1st just listen and don’t be put off by the god talk. There is none of that what your partner is saying. They all want to get clean. Obv u might get the odd 1. But everyone is loving and supportive it really works! Tell him he’s being daft and download zoom and get on a meeting with me. I can give u details and times.

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