[little-al]

I could relate to every word of that. My partner is a heroin addict for 20 years on and off. .His latest relapse has lasted 5 years . Last week I was in hospital and had keyhole surgery to remove my appendix and a cyst on my ovaries. For 5years we have kept his relapse from his family but as I wasn’t around they now know. This week he is doing a home detox and has booked time off work. .my worry is not just if he doesn’t manage it but also how do I trust him after. .With money in his pocket? We are lucky because although people know we still manage to keep a social life with friends that don’t use. .I just wish my partner would realise how lucky he is. Before he was with me he was always in jail or homeless so he has come along way. .good luck to you and your partner
We have 3 lovely girls by the way x

[icarus-trust]

I also found your sad but brave story very moving.
I work for The Icarus Trust a charity that supports the families and friends of addicts. If you would find it helpful to talk with one of our trained volunteers please get in touch.
You can contact us on help@icarustrust.org or visit the website http://www.icarustrust.org
Good luck and keep strong!

[sk]

Wow. This is probably the best piece of writing to explain how a person of an addict feels, this was me two years ago until i finally realised nothing was going to change unless i changed it for me and my two beautiful kids. An 18 year relationship gone just like that. Today i feel bitter i am not the person i used to be and doubt i will ever trust another bloke again. I am cold and have massive barriers for another man to try and smash down. The thought of moving forward is scary as the man i leave behind is the only man i have known, but i know i cannot go backwards as i feel numb towards him. Kids think sun shines out of his backside but they do not know the truth. How do you explain that to a 8 and 2 yr old, answer is you dont. The relief of not having to spy through a key hole when he’s gone to the toilet or the panic that hes took too long at the shop or sleeping with your purse under the pillow. I just want a normal bloke who will put me n my kids first and will do anything to make us happy. I really hope he does exist and restores my faith in men. I just need to find him!!! Thank you for this its nice to know that I wasn’t crazy n paranoid like he made me believe, instead I was right. I tried, I failed but it wasn’t my fault.

[blonde-moment]

Also struck a cord for me particularly his brain being posioned and its all your fault bit , and having every special moment ruined by them or you trying to make excuses for why they can’t hold down a job or have to disappear during family functions I never told anyone Not friends or family I was determined no one would judge him us or think I must be a smack head too seeing as my boyfriend was ( I don’t do drugs at all a glass lambrini is as hardcore as I get ;)did five and a half years with my fiance then he went to Serbia had a na opine Implant and to be fair he’s more of a lunatic than I ever suspected and guess what still all my fault so enoughs enough be careful what u wish for sometimes clean they still if not more arseholes simple as ????

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