Hi MrsJ,
Welcome to the Forum, where you will great advice from lots of people in a similar situation. I’m sorry that you find yourself in this situation, it’s like living in hell.
I am the Mum of an addict, alcohol and cocaine, he has pressed the self destruct button at the moment and is not in a good place. The money, the lies, it’s a viscious circle which is very hard on the person that has to live with it.
It’s all very sad, causes so much stress, and I really wish I had all the answers. I think you have a lot of thinking to do and decisions to be made, but very hard when you love the person and know that they can be so much better when clean and sober.
Keep in touch on here. Take care.
Dx