[unhappygirl]

Hi

I have a boyfriend who I have been with for over 5 years. I have helped him through a drink problem, but past year especially hes been doing cocaine and prescription tablets behind my back alongside gambling which has resulted putting me in debt and also mentally draining as recently hes become more open about it and just seems a hurdle I dont know if I can manage to get over this time. Iv invested the past 5 years into making things good with him as we’ve came from different backgrounds but I’m so upset and angry and hurt that hes done all this behind my back and to top it off hes been saying to his friends I’m the excuse for him not having money or not been able to go out etc . Hes reaches out thankfully for help last week so I’m hoping this will be the turning point but part of me doubt this and I sometimes feel I’m being quite vocal about it to him which makes me feel bad as it upsets him . I think alot of people forget about the ones who support someone with an addiction and how it impacts that person’s life . I’m hoping to get some support this time as it’s really taking its tole on me as a person.

[icarus-trust]

Thank you for posting. You’re quite right, living with someone with an addiction is really hard and has a huge impact on that person’s life.

Its good to hear that your partner has reached out for help but it sounds like you would like some support for yourself.

i work for a charity called Icarus Trust. We provide support for people living with a family member who has addictive behaviours. We have trained and experienced people who would listen to you and try to help you if you get in touch.

You can contact The Icarus Trust on help@icarustrust.org or visit our website http://www.icarustrust.org

All the best to you.

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