[acepanic]

Hi everyone, this is the first time I’ve ever opened up in anyway to other people about my wife’s addiction issues. I’ve tried to hide it, to protect her but it’s making me unwell.

She has always been a big drinker but a few years ago I started finding empty cans and bottles around the house. She was initially remorseful, but she is doing it more and more now, the girl I fell in love with is more often than not slumped over, slurring at me, telling me I’m not good enough.

I’ve tried to help. I’ve taken her to AA meetings, encouraged her to seek counselling and see her doctor. Nothing helps. I’m worried she is going to hurt herself but everything I say I’m going to let other people know for help, she says I’m blackmailing her and that she will divorce me.

I’m getting increasingly anxious, not seeing friends anymore and not enjoying my life-everytime I leave the house, I wonder what I will return to.

I don’t really know why I’m posting this, I know what I need to do-i need to leave. But I’m not ready and I think I just need to know there are other people who understand how I feel.

Thanks for your time

[kel1]

Thank you for sharing with us, it’s not easy to put your story out there , however I’m hoping it gives you some comfort sharing and connecting with others.

It sounds as though youve tried to support your wife in every which way, however she would really need to want to get the support she needs

Have you thought about getting some support for yourself? Al Anon is a great place to start. They help people affected by someone else’s substance misuse.

I’ve been through hell, my story is on here if you click on my name. It’s not the same substance, however I think we all share similarities when it comes to addiction, heartache and pain.

I eventually did leave for my own sanity. I ended up having a break down. I am stronger these days (six months) on, but the affects leave a bitter taste.

Have you got a local Alcohol service around? Would she consider giving them a call perhaps?

Sending you big hugs and strength

[acepanic]

Hi Kel,

Thank you so much for your words. You have no idea how much I needed to hear them x

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