[alstevens]

hello. please don’t judge me. I come from a loving home and family, I’m 28. I have a 2 year old with my husband of 7 years. his parents died when he was 12. simce, he has struggled with PTSD and depression. hes got himself into heavy debt, and as a way out, I think he has turned to selling drugs. he is not at home often, he has nothing around our child, doesn’t smoke near her but visibly needs help. I know he has struggled before with cocaine. I am in no way shape or form, involved with what he gets up too outside of our home, but I feel like because I have a very good feeling he is up to no good , it makes me feel involved. this upsets me, I cannot find a way to leave this man. does this make sense ?

[caro]

Hi there,

this sounds very difficult, you are not to blame or responsible for his behaviour. Your gut feelings are telling you that something is not going well. When you say you cannot find a way to leave this man, is this what you want to do? It is very hard being a parent, do you feel trapped?

[alstevens]

I feel trapped in the sense that I never wanted our child to grow up knowing parents are apart, I’m from a very faithful family and it would so very sad. if I didn’t have a child, it would be easy for me to leave him. but I feel I have to make it work, for pir childs sake, but he needs to somehow understand what goodness he has at home, if not I feel it might slip out of his hands.

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