[sizzle81]

I have only joined today and sad to see so many unanswered posts. I don’t have any magic answers but just wondered how you were getting on as its been a few weeks since you wrote ??

[icarus-trust]

Hi
I’m so sorry that you are having such a horrible time and that you feel so alone. The Icarus Trust is a charity that supports people like yourself who are dealing with the impact of a loved one’s addiction. if you contact us you could talk with one of our experienced trained volunteers which might help you to find a way forward.
You can contact us on help@icarustrust.org or visit the website http://www.icarustrust.org
Good luck with everything.

[joan22]

I really hope you check back and see the messages. I can only speak as someone in your shoes but 20 years down the road. If I had my time over again? I would have walked and kept on walking and never looked back. The same old lies, excuses and, of course, no real support available for ‘carers’. We’re grandparents now and I’m the one who is ill – no doubt as a result of all the worry. I found a syringe floating in my toilet this morning. He’s out there somewhere and, do you know, I really don’t care any more. He was in the last chance saloon ten years ago. I don’t want to see him again. I want to move away so I don’t have to put up with all the things that I know are going to come next. You sound quite young. I know it’s hard – I loved my husband more than life itself. But, slowly, the lies and the deceit break that down. Be strong. Don’t let yourself me lied to and used. I will be thinking about you.

[wife-carer]

Hi, thank you all for your comments.
I lost track of this site and could remember how to find it again.

Thank you for your kind words and concern, it has been quite a journey since then.

My husbands relapse did get out of control, I pretty much shut him off, we continued living under the same roof but barely saw each other with such different routines.

I was working, seeing friends and family and focusing on myself as the support advises.

He was ‘getting by’ continuing to just about work and using morning and night. He was aware I had no tolerance and was intentionally not engaging in with him under the influence.He became extremely low knowing the life of an addict is no life! He again booked himself into detox but there was a long wait. The weeks building up to detox he started attended NA meetings 3x per week and reading the NA bible and worked My on building a relationship hoping for a sponsor.

I have again decided to support him through detox.
Joan22 I appreciate your thoughts and I am thinking about the things you’ve said!!! You are right, we are still young and have a lift time ahead of us and I am seriously thinking about all options.
On this occasion I have again committed to stay with him and support him back into recovery due to his determination and commitment.

He is 4 days post detox, he has been to 4 NA meetings in 4 days and is living by the principle ‘just for today’ to help him stay clean each day.

What I’m wanting to know is, are there any success stories from family out there?
Has anyone supported a loved one through years and years of successful recovery?

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