[delia]

I was just relaxing enjoying the beautiful weather expecting my parents round for a visit. But when there was a no show I called my mum and my peaceful relaxing mood has changed to feeling miserable and down.

As per usual for as long as I can remember my Dad got himself in a drunken state yesterday, had a fall, had my Mum up all night shouting out needing help to the bathroom, only to wake up this morning saying ‘you don’t want to go visiting today do you’.

My Mum tells me all the gorey details in front of him over the phone to try make him feel bad. She is upset her day is ruined and is spent cleaning up his mess as per usual. I just feel like crying for my poor Mum who is too old to change anything but also very frustrated that she never did anything when she was younger. I don’t know who to talk to as I don’t want to make anyone feel as miserable as I do eventhough all the family know what is going on. What am I supposed to do, I feel so useless how to deal with this. I love my Parents very much and they have been amazing support all my life but it kills me to see how unhappy they are in their later life. My Dad refuses to except there’s a problem and my Mum is on a mission to tell me how bad things are.

If anyone can offer any advice it would be much appreciated.

Thanks

[debc]

Hi Delia,

Welcome to the Forum where there are many people in similar situations.

There is lots of helpful advice on here, the Icarus Trust also post on here at times and you might find it helpful to talk to them.

I really feel for you, it must be so sad for you not to be able to spend time with your Mum because of your Dads drinking, it is no fun living with someone with addiction problems.

Keep in touch on here, remember you are not on your own.

Take care.

Dx

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