[tracieileen]

I work at a homeless shelter and therefore, deal with addicts on a daily basis. I hear stories every day about how people prefer living on the streets vs. staying at a shelter because they feel they lose their freedom ie. being locked down and not allowed outside from 11 pm – 6 am and I get it. If you want to go out for a smoke at 3 am, they want to be able to do that. Yet, I don’t understand the same scenario, when it comes to my stepson. We have finally gotten the rest of the family, for the most part, to stop enabling him in hopes of him hitting rock bottom and coming to his senses and be open to getting help. But, it’s just not happening. Feeling very frustrated and confused 🙁

[alicat]

You could be writing my story right now. My stepson is in the same position. Been bailed out so many times thousands of pounds probably. My partner his dad is sick with worry, we all are. Each time he gets caught out owing more money asking other people and family members for money then he turns so nasty and it’s everyone else’s fault. Says that he would be better if dead and then he gets bailed out again. Asks everyone to lie for him, don’t tell mum, don’t tell dad…

I too work with homeless services and see addiction and what it does to families. So so frustrating and terrifying. So today’s question is to pay or not to pay?? I’m thinking no but want to feel confident that’s the right response.

I’ve sent my stepson a contact in AA who would be happy to speak with him but it doesn’t look like he’s at that place yet.

He’s such a lovely guy too, everyone who knows him loves him but this situation is killing us all.

Hope your family gets some peace soon xx

[tracieileen]

Wow, our lives do sound similar! I am so sorry that you are going through this too. My husband saw our son last night and feels that he doesn’t have much time left, wondering if he may be in permanent psychosis. He wants to do something, but with COVID-19, he is really worried. He is talking about renting a place so he can grab him and have a place to stay with our son to quarantine in case our son is positive. My husband’s immune system is compromised, so this worries me, but I totally understand him putting himself at risk to try to save our son’s life. He too is definitely not ready to get help yet, so, I am not sure what my husband can really do to help him.

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