[cdudley]

Its a very long and sorry story that brings me to this point…so long story short my son (24) is a drug addict which has definitely got worse over the 12mths, to the point he no longer hides it, but in reality has been going on for a couple of years. He also has mental health, adhd depression anxiety etc issues dating back a young teenager.

His daughter was born 10 months ago, he tried living with the mother (bit of a toxic relationship imo, but they keep trying and as far as possible I stay out of that and support them separately esp my granddaughter) he lives in rented accommodation which i confess i help financially with, he is out of work, waiting for an operation on his bladder (due the ketamine) so is in a lot of pain, we’ve been to hospital on 3 separate occasions for various drug related issues and he’s lost a close friend to over dose (he was there) any way thats the crudest of outlines on him and could go on for pages but as they say its history and we just want to move forward. And I need to understand how to support him properly, I dont want to cut him off (although sometimes for my mental stability it feels like my only choice but not one I’m willing to take yet) but begging crying and or shouting in frustration doesn’t work (guess no surprise there,) We’re not a rich family, the idea of 8k for rehab is a scarey debt, especially if he’s not quite ready for it. It has been discussed though which I take as a positive but he backs out at the last hurdle every time.

What can I do to stay sane and more importantly how can I help move this forward and get us on the road to recovery?

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