[sophmum]

My other half is an alcoholic. Every night after work he opens a can as soon as he gets home and can drink between 5 and 10 cans a night. We have 3 kids and it’s affecting our whole life.

He’s never been violent or anything but spends every night drinking downstairs and falls asleep on the sofa while I’m up with our youngest every night since she’s been born.

It’s affecting his job, he’s having time off more often. He’s leaving things on like an electric fire! Doors unlocked etc.

I can’t wake him up in the mornings for work and to take our eldest to school.

He can’t be bothered to go anywhere on a weekend just wants to stay at home all the time, which is miserable for us all.

I want to end our relationship really but don’t want to ruin our family and make the kids lives more unhappy.

????

[icarus-trust]

Hi Sophmum,

Thank you for posting. It must be very stressful holding the family together without support from your partner. I can that his drinking is affecting all of you.

I work for a charity called The Icarus Trust which is there to provide support for people dealing with the addiction of a family member. If you would like to talk to someone who would understand please get in touch. We have experienced trained people you could talk with and they will help you to know what other help is available in your area.

Maybe talking to one of them would help you to find a way forward.

You can contact us on help@icarustrust.org or visit the website http://www.icarustrust.org

Good luck.

[sophmum]

Thankyou for the reply.

I just realised that I posted my post twice, oops!

Yes I’m finding it stressful and financially it doesn’t help us at all, I’m struggling with everyday costs because of his habit.

I will check out the website as I think I would find physically speaking to someone a little daunting yet.

Thankyou again ????

[icarus-trust]

Hi,

You can talk with one of our people on line and it would be completely confidential – if that helps you.

So sorry to hear how you are struggling.

Hope you can get some help.

[sophmum]

Great, I will give that a go Thankyou. It would be nice to also hear off anybody else in my situation with children, as it’s them I’m most concerned about obviously

[georgia26]

Sadly, unless he wants to get help for his addiction there is nothing you can do. Life is way too short. You mention not wanting to ruin your family but I think by the sounds of it theyll be happier in the end, kids learn to deal with separation x

[sophmum]

I think deep down I know that, but it’s taking the plunge. He’s not a bad guy just puts his family business and beer first unfortunately. I feel like a single mum anyway to be quite honest

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