[thistim3]

Hi Rachel.  So sorry for the loss of your mother.  I also wonder that. My mother died over 9 years ago.  I love her, and hope she is in a good place. I always wanted good for her.  We did not have any relationship for about 8 years before she died, then she became very ill and lingered for months. She wanted myself and my siblings to come to her bedside, but I couldn’t and didn’t.  Another of my siblings also did not.  I still feel that I made the right choice for myself.  My mother was a mean drunk.  She had her reasons for being miserable, but none of them seemed worth all that misery.  My siblings and I survived her madness, but unfortunately the relationships that I have with my siblings have suffered.  I guess there has to be some, (what is the word?) dysfunction when being raised during so much emotional distress on a daily basis.  All my siblings and I are successful, but have struggled in many ways with our personal relationships between ourselves and our own families (I am married to an addict).  But, I feel that I lost my mother years before she died. I had already lost and grieved her during those so difficult living years.  It still surprises me that she lived as long as she did (78), as I expected her to drink herself to death years before. My she rest in peace, finally free from the grip of alcoholism.

[natasha21]

Oh bless both of you,my heart goes out to you both,having your childhood ruined by alcohol and a parent who just can’t say no. Well my story ive been to my beautiful, funny 52 year old cousins funeral today.And thanks to alcohol which caused liver failure 3 weeks ago, apparently she was told 2 years ago by the doctor to stop drinking but I guess she thought it would never happen to her.im very spiritual and believe I the afterlife and angels exactly the same as she did so I don’t tend to cry at funerals.But today I sobbed like a baby,watching my uncles and cousins carry her in,watching my mom who’s 78, checking on her baby brother ( who’s in his late 60s but my cousins dad) watching her son come back from Australia travelling and reading his memories and sobbing.just heart breaking, too many families grieving because of alcohol xxx

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