[bt1978]

Hi Babs

I read this post and didn’t want to pass on.

You are in a very difficult situation there and it just be really tough on you.

I can obviously only go by what you have written – it reads as if he is veering towards addiction in my experience.

Have you ever seen him do it or found any?

Sorry to say that most people dont just change and get better, something has to happen to jump start it. True addicts only ever get progressively worse and not better over time. Your post reads like it’s gone from being recreational to a necessity now – additionally its impacting you and your relationship, especially arguing all the time which just makes thos 10x worse

[babs45]

Hi BT1978 – thanks for replying

I have not found any or actually seen him do it for a long time but I think he is just really careful now due to the arguments. He has promised to stop so many times and broken that promise I’m just expecting it now. I’m tired of it all. Just want to be on my own without all the doubt and mistrust. It’s not just the cocaine there’s other trust issues from a few years ago when he cheated. But how do you divorce someone you still love even though you know the relationship is no good anymore. This forum is great. So good to learn from others going through the same. I can only hope I’m as strong as some of the people on here

[bt1978]

You are stronger than you realise, for sure

The problem with addiction is it’s very very rare people can just stop what they are doing for a number of reasons. This may be the addiction, or the fact they have no intention of stopping.

Do you think he would co side CA / NA meetings at all? May be good to identify with people in the same boat as him

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