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Today has been a really tough day. I found out my ex has been telling the truth, that he’s been sober since I left. He couldn’t/wouldn’t get sober when I was pregnant or had our child. He blames me for his drinking even though he was an alcoholic before he met me. I’ve got the blame for his addiction, or at least he and his family etc have decided it was so bad because of me. It hurts so much as I deep down hoped all the cruel treatment was the drink and that if one day he was abstinent he would show me kindness. Instead he’s directed all the anger he has at me. It feels so very unfair
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You aren’t to blame. He was an alcoholic before you met him… don’t blame yourself.
Must be a kick in the gut that he wouldn’t do it for you and your baby.
Maybe it was more timing, than you?
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Some people love to place blame on others, and also jump on the band wagon! Sod them. How can someone else’s behaviour be anyone elses fault other than the person behaving! Makes no sense be because it’s all BS.
We are not responsible for anyone’s behaviour, we are only responsible for the way we react!
Blaming others is a typical example of someone not accepting personal responsibility! Let’s say for arguments sake you did something which he didn’t like or agree with etc by something you said or did right…. Did you get the drink or whatever and open his mouth and shove it down his throat? Nah you didn’t! Anything else is ridiculous!
Let them get on with it and you keep true to yourself!
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100% agree with every word!
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