[fayzey]

Hi Triumph, sorry to hear you are going through this – reading your post reminded me exactly of how I feel/felt – the lies are definitely the worst. I would love to get to a point where we can get the trust back but it’s not going to be easy. Like you said I don’t believe a word that comes out of his mouth anymore. My partner is hopefully getting into NHS rehab – is your partner on the waiting list? I have asked my partner to move out as I couldn’t take it anymore as it was making physically ill with the stress of it – but I know that’s not right for everyone. Sorry I don’t have any advice as such but just wanted to let you know I know how you are feeling. Take care x

[triumph2022]

@fayzey

Thank you so much for message.

Yes my partner is on a wait list but as you know yourself spaces are so limited and the demand is high.

Same, I’ve asked her to go but she has now where to go, no money and going could mean the situation gets a lot worse, which is a big worry.

It gives me a lot of comfort knowing other people are feeling or have felt exactly like I do right now. Thank you x

[elf73]

I’ve only just joined this site but just wanted to say I’m in exactly the same position as you. In fact if you replace ‘she’ and ‘her’ with ‘he’ and ‘him’ and I could have written this word for word. The lies are most definitely the worst. Especially when you know they are lying at the point they are doing it. I hate myself for the way I react sometimes but although I’m new to seeking support myself I’ve already learnt a lot fro. Reading Kulstar’s posts and replies. I’m now focusing on my own wellbeing and taking a step back. I think he needs to figure this out on his own and I’ve neglected myself for far too long. I can’t offer any advice as like I said I’m new to this approach myself after dealing with his addictions for the best part of 20 years (gambling first and the past year coke and alcohol). However, I just had to say how much I related to your post. Look after yourself first.

[triumph2022]

@Elf73

Thank you so much for your message.

It’s comforting to know other people can relate to exactly how I’m feeling. It really does help keep me positive.

And it is such good advice to focus on looking after myself first.

I’ve begun to do this and although it’s hard at times, it is giving me hope and keeps my mind positive.

I’ll take a look at Kulstars posts myself and hopefully will learn a lot from them like you have.

Thank you x

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