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Hi. I’m new to this forum but am in desperate need of help. My dad (67) is an alcoholic and is going from bad to worse. He has been a drinker for over 20 years but the past few years have been awful. We’ve tried several times to get him into rehab but because he is malnourished as he doesn’t eat properly and he has poor mobility he hadn’t been accepted. He’s been in hospital several times due to falls etc and been detoxed in there twice – each time he has started drinking again after a few weeks. The last detox was after a hospital admission after he fell down the stairs and knocked himself unconscious! He was detoxed again and my mum tried to say she wouldn’t have him at home. As they own their home, apparently she wasn’t allowed to do this. If they lived in a council house she would have been allowed to refuse to take him back – how is that right?? ????

The hospital sent him home saying he had no social care or mobility needs – he fell over going in the front door!!

Anyway, as he didn’t drink for a few weeks, and we paid for carers to come in 3 times a day whilst my mum was at work to make sure he ate and took medication, he built his strength up so he was only walking with a stick and put on some weight. The rehab place finally agreed to take him following a 9 week weekly course. He started drinking again. His mobility is terrible again. The rehab place won’t take him again. We’re completely at the end of our tethers. I’m more worried about my mum as all this is taking a toll on her. She’s already had 2 breakdowns over the years and I’m worried this is all making her ill again. I have my own house and family but she’s living it every day. She often has to ring me to get me to go and help pick him up off the floor when he falls drunk and she can’t get him up. He wets himself (even with incontinence pads on because he can’t be bothered to change them!) He doesn’t wash, shower or shave and won’t wear clean clothes. He looks like a tramp and not the man I grew up respecting as my dad. He’s let us down time and time again. My son is recovering from 4 years of having leukaemia and he didn’t even come when he rang the end of treatment bell after 4 years of chemo!

Basically my mum needs a break. We need my dad to go somewhere so that she can get some respite but nobody seems to be able to help. We’re more than prepared to pay but just don’t know where to turn. Any ideas PLEASE (Staffordshire area) Thanks

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