[lainey]

I am a single mum of 2 and my eldest son is causing alot of trouble in my home. I love him dearly but I think he is smoking weed every day. He is selling things, threatening to sell things, damaging my home in anger, not working and demanding money every other day, I have given him money and his grandad has also but this is not going to stop unless I stop it. I am so fearful that he is destroying my home which I have recently had rennovated. He is becoming abusive and more aggressive. Threatening myself and thowing things and kicking out and damaging things. I am at the end of my teather and to be honest I just dont know what to do. I have called the police but this has not stopped him. I cannot afford to give him money like this it is costing a fortune and it is costing me in repairs to my home. He shows a clear lack of respect and does not seem to care.

I have looked for drug referrals but they will not take him until he refers himself. Need help now!

[dfh]

You need to put boundaries in place. And make it clear if it continues then he has to leave. Make sure you follow through. I have an adult version, my husband. And I’m struggling. I’m moving house soon and once that’s done if he hasn’t improved I will be giving him an ultimatum with full intention of leaving if need be. Sorry I can’t offer a magic solution, you have to stop enabling and start distancing. Xx

[icarus-trust]

Hi Lainey,

Thank you for posting. I know that what you are going through is really hard but hopefully I can offer you some support if you think it would be helpful.

I work for a charity called The Icarus Trust. We offer support to people, like yourself , who are having to deal with a family member’s addiction because we know how hard it is. We have people called Family Friends who are trained and very experienced. If you contact us I can put you in touch with one of them. Talking with them might help you to find a way forward and they would be able to signpost you to whta other help is available.

You can contact Icarus Trust on help@icarustrust.org or visit our website http://www.icarustrust.org

Wishing you all the best.

[Author]

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