[lindyloo]

Hi Tinker and welcome to the forum,

I’m so sorry to read your story and I wanted you to know that you are not alone and there is lots of help and advice on this forum.

If you read the other threads, there are people who are going through similar emotions with their loved one’s addictions.

There is also good advice from people in recovery who can tell you what the usual cycle is from an addicts point.

The forum also has help available on their homepage and the Icarus trust. Unfortunately I don’t have all the answers, but I wanted you to know that people care and want to help you.

My son has addictions to alcohol and cocaine and I know from personal experience what it can do to a family.

Look after yourself first and foremost and your children and accept all the help and support you can. Don’t be alone in this nightmare, things will get better, but it definitely begins and ends with the choices that your partner makes.

I hope you both get the help and support you seek.

Always here to chat.

Take care

Lx

[debc]

Hi Tinker,

This is a great forum to get help and read other people’s stories in the same situation.

Like Lindyloo I also have an addict Son who is in Recovery.

Your partner really does need help, but that can only come from him.

There is the Icarus Trust that helps people as well.

Look after you and your children first, keep in touch with the people on this forum, they are really helpful and always helps to share your story.

Take care

Dx

[tinker]

Thanks so much to you both. It’s just so hard. I’m so tired all the time. I feel like a single parent who’s always shouldering all the responsibilities while he gets to act like a teenager. He’s 42. I think it’s pathetic. I’m not kind about the addiction. I say horrible things all the time but I feel entitled to do so when he’s behaving this way. It’s ok for a while and then it starts again. I can’t be bothered. I don’t want to spend my life doing this. Life is too short to waste dealing with drama that isn’t even your own. It’s just the financial crap that keeps me here and the kids. I don’t want to hurt them but this is probably hurting more than if I left! It’s boring. I just feel like I’m constantly repeating the same drivel I’m bored of it all! I wish he would meet someone else and set me free x

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