[gabdi]

Last year on july 2018 my couple start saying I had cheated on him … I came home and one day found cocaine on the table, now after that he said he had been using it for two years, he had always smoked weed and drink.. at least ome drink a day….

Anyways. On july last year everything went to hell , he treated me horrible, came home inspecting all my clothes saying I had cheated, he would even inspect every wall with a flashlight and say that I had cleaned marks. Is this normal when you are under cocaine influence , I have cero idea of how to deal with this. Please share anything …

[gabdi]

I never cheated on him but he had so many images in his head in which he is sure I was ‘shady’.

He said he stopped cocaine and that he was not addicted, but then I saw him doing it and found bags in his car. He denied saying it was from long time ago. How can I know, how is the addiction? Is it possible just to stop? I dont know what to do.

[georgia26]

Hi Gabdi

When youre addicted to cocaine, you cant just ‘stop’ – its hard really to explain it, it might be worth reading through some threads so you understand addiction a bit more.

Cocaine can completely change people, it can make people paranoid and nasty, it sounds like he is hiding an addiction, also, you say he has 1 drink a day – it also sounds like there is a potential drinking problem there as well.

if youre doing something regulary and you cant go without it, youre addicted. You can buy drug tests on Amazon, i would suggest you test him then if hes not telling the truth.

when someone has an addiction whether it be alcohol or drugs, it comes first, before your wife/husband/kids/work, its a disease and sometimes incurable. People really have to hit rock bottom before they give up.

I wont go into my experience but I have been there with my partner, its hell.. but the start of recovery is actually wanting to give up and admitting it. It made my partner insane, it causes mental health problems big time. I got accused of cheating constantly, he was vile and cocaine changes people.

He sounds like hes deep in addiction and i think hes hiding it from you, the only way youll know is to start drug testing but if he doesnt want help of any kind it will continue and it will come first.

drinking and smoking weed as well, he sounds like hes got an addiction problem all round, it doesnt matter if its 1 a day or once a week, if you cant not do it, then youre addicted.

[danman83]

Hey georgia! How was the hol?? X

[georgia26]

Ah Dan, Helloooo

Yes it was really good – he didnt drink a drip, madness, I think the addiction counselling is actually working.. no coke relapse either, since Jan…

its hard to believe as well, like i can feel my anxieties starting to chill now.

How are you? how is everything going? your holiday soon isnt it? i ate way too much need to get my arse back in the gym 🙂 i drank a bit on holiday and he wasnt bothered

nice to see you pop up on here, youre so supportive of everyone its lovely x

[danman83]

For a start.. if you said hes always smoked weed.. i think your answer is right in front of you. Weed makes you so paranoid its unreal not to everyone, but thats the main side effect.

Then again cocaine always makes you paranoid… especially when your on it. When hes come home inspecting everything is he on coke? Because it could be the coke. Ive heard people do strange things on it.

Then the other one is.. he could of been up to no good himself and he takes it out on you. Ill be honest cocaine does make some people cheat. Just like people blame alcohol on cheating..

Has he quit it then?

[danman83]

Thats great am happy for him and you.

What was the food like? I ask everyone that haha.. i love food abroad..

Im doing hiit training in the gym at mo.. love it lol..

Well am am ok.. but i lapsed last week, i went out in town.. after a month.. but to be honest im doing and feeling a lot better and have it more under control. You could hold it in front of me now.. and id tell you .. get that away from me!

It took me about 4 days recover.. i got in from town about 6am and had work that night. I was well pissed off. Im not doing that for a long time. I think im going to go to a hypnotist after my holl, and yeee its 57 days away haha i really cant wait. Im staying in till then, and then im going to decorate the front room and buy some new things for it.. so hopefully ill be ok.

And thanks for that.. but i really think i need to help people the best i can.. it helps me as well. Im in contact with 2 other women off that pocket rehab who have probs with it as well. And they are thanking me a lot as well, bit bad really saying i cant stop fully my self lol.

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