[danman83]

Im in same position as your husband. But i am using once a month. And i keep lapsing once a month. Im doing my best to quit. I really cant stand the stuff anymore.

Hes obviosuly got a big problem.

To quit he really needs to want it, hes obviously stuck in a rut and he needs to change his routine around. Ive took up reading and i never read. Im doing more days in the gym. I did metal detecting for a bit but ive gave that up lol. He needs to implement new hobbies in his life to replace the bad ones.

I also listen to cocaine recovery stories on you tube, listen to a few of russell brands stories as he was an addict., i listen to podcast at work to keep my mind off it all.

And yesturday i went to a hypnotist, because ive just had enough of it. Only time will tell if it works.

How much is he spending a week then?

[lau19]

He was spending £200 a day but has recently cut it down to £40-80 per day. The problem is that everyone does it where he works so it’s hard to get away from. He’s told me he doesn’t do it at work now and will do it at home so I can see what he’s using. And I’m in control of his money now but how do I know if he’s racking up an iou with his mates!?

I’ve told him to read a book or do a jigsaw puzzle but ‘it’s not his thing’. I don’t know what else to suggest.

He has addiction forums that he reads and chats on and he’s been watching addiction programmes on Netflix.

[danman83]

What doea he do if you dont mind me asking?

Have you any kids?

Reading isnt my thing and i took it up, its just finding something. The money he is spending he could be spending it on a lot better things.

So what does he do just have it and watch t.v?

[lau19]

He works on a building site. Yeah we have a 7 month old so the anxiety of that has increased his use. Think he mainly uses when he’s stressed or anxious but also says he uses it so he can be motivated to do things.

He knows why he should stop and that he doesn’t want to use but he just can’t overcome his cravings

[danman83]

Well if hes on a building site with all lads then i can see why he is having it all the time.

Its all bullshit that.. he needs it to get motivated.. what did he do before he had coke? We make so many excuses why we use and that we need it in our life. Its your brain tricking you.

These tablets help off ebay for drugs cravings they are chinese herbal..jia wei xiao yao wan.. there about 15quid.. could try them. I get them every month.

Do you not drill it in to his head that the money could be going on your 7 month old instead of up his nose. My gf does and it makes me upset, but i guess i need that kick up the ass.

If you could see into the future and know he was still using in 5 years time.. everyday still… would you still stay with him?

[danman83]

Plus hes in a bad routine now of going work and using with mates.. if he was in another job with people who didnt use, he wouldnt be using. I couldnt think of anything worse. But at least he wants to stop and thats a good think. Pocket rehab is a good app to have.. and watch some videos on you tube of louise clarke on crack cocaine part 123 . They will help alot

[lau19]

Yeah I tell him about what else the money can be spent on and he hates himself for it. I can tell his mindset and thinking is improving and he’s trying hard not to use as much or as often.

I’ve messaged a guy he works with today to tell him that everyone needs to stop offering it to him. He says no the first time to them but then they say ‘go on, just have a bit’. His mate messaged back to apologise and said he didn’t realise how bad it was.

About 2 months ago he stopped going out with his mates because they use too so he’s cut out that social aspect, it then that makes it hard for him cause he’s stuck at home with me all the time until he can find himself a hobbie.

[danman83]

Well the money he spends you could go out for a meal every night lol… tell him just give you the money and put 5 random places in a hat or something, theme park, skiiing, god knows.. something u have always wanted to do. And pick one out a week or month, and do it. So he has something to look foward to. But its easier said than done.

Ive come off face book as well. You get hastled on there aswell for it. To be honest i dont get out with my mates anymore. And i still manage to get it . Why dont he try hypnosis. Mine was £85.. but i dont know how much it will be near you. No harm in trying tho.

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