[landsurfer74]

We are in our late 50’s / early 60’s, our daughter, a 20 year heroin and methadone addict, has progressed to crack and heroin.

Her 3 children .. 7, 9 and 14 are now in our care. And have been for 6 months now … for the first time in their lives they have daily stability, love and just basics ..clean pants etc..

Today our daughter, homeless for 3 months after being evicted from her sheltered accommodation was arrested for shoplifting … again ….

She is 36 and each morning we dread the knock on the door from the police to tel us she is dead.

As “Kinship Carers” we get no support form SC Rotherham and are expected to attend Core meetings, facilitate SC visits, and arrange minimum contact with their dad … 20 years alcohol and heroin use.

Or the sperm donor as we call him ….

We are watching a slow motion movie of our daughters death…..

If a magic wand was waved tonight and our daughter woke up clean the children would not return to her, as much as they love her … They have become nervous in her presence …

We are at a loss what to do …

Just wait for Amy to kill herself with an overdose ……. ?

[danman83]

Hope you both are ok.. its a difficult one heroin. My best mate has turned to this.. and his dad got him on it.

Its sad when i see him like this and i avoid him.

I really cant give any advice on this because ive never it.. but il say maybe tips or try my best..

Does your daughter want to quit?

If she moves in with you for you to help her , i take it she will rob you?

But you dont want to see her on the streets.

But she really needs to want to quit.

May be rehab for to sort her out. Locked away with guidence.

May be look in to that. I dont know if u have to pay or not.

Ive always said to my self if i win the lottery.. id buy a farm in the middle of nowere an island in scotland say..and get heroin addicts who want to quit. Live there and work and get them off it that way.. but thats just a dream lol.

I think you need to sit with her and get it sorted before its to late like you say.

[dnanon]

So sorry to read about your daughter’s addiction. I too wish there was a magic wand that you could wave. It’s so sad that your daughter has been taken away from you through her addiction. What a fantastic thing you are doing taking on the care of your grand children. Is there any way that she would consider rehab or any form of drug therapy. You and your husband must be very strong to deal with this together. Your last statement really shows your despair and is so sad. My thoughts and prayers are with you both x

[landsurfer74]

Rehab has been refused by SC as not financially viable … they won’t fund it… she has been in drug therapy for 15 years with Clearways and lately CGL …. to no end … Rotherham SC has still not recovered from the rape and abuse of 1300+ young white girls by Asian Men while SC and the Police stood by … SC is throwing all its resources in that direction at the moment …. While Kinship care can be used free of charge they will use it …. I understand their predicament ….

[icarus-trust]

Hi Landsurfer

Thanks for sharing your story. You are doing an incredible job bringing up your grandchildren while coping with all the emotion and worry around your daughter’s addiction.

I wonder whether you might be interested in some support for yourselves. I work for The Icarus Trust, a charity that provides support to people that are affected by a family member’s addiction. Maybe talking with one of our experienced people, who would understand what you are dealing with, would help you.

You can contact us on help@icarustrust.org or visit the website http://www.icarustrust.org

Good luck with everything.

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