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Hi,

I’m after advice. My partner drinks a lot, every day. He can sink cans and pints (it’s ‘only’ beer that he drinks) ridiculously quick, resulting in him drinking a lot.

We’re good together for 90% of the time, yet our lives are ruled by ‘whether there will be a pub there’ and whenever he has a bad day at work (which is often (he’s always down)), he’ll come home with a box of beer and it feels like our nights are ruined. I’m never allowed to express my opinion on how much he drinks, it puts him in a mood where he’ll go and buy more beer. We’ve chatted about buying a house and having a child, but he can’t save any money because he literally spends so much of it on beer. I’m scared that if we have a child, he’ll still act this way, if he’s had a bad day etc.

Ive told him my fears but he insists he wouldn’t be like that with a child or gets annoyed for me thinking he would be.

How do I move past this? He’s not an aggressive drunk, but I just hate it. Literally anything that isn’t 100% how he wants it, will cause him to need to have beer.

I worry I make him do this (I know I don’t deep down), but I do nag him (he’ll break laptops by spilling beer on them, wreck a bed by falling asleep and spilling it). I know my issues aren’t for a hard core alcoholic, but the ones I have are not making me happy and I just need advice how to get it through to him?

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