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This is the first time I’ve ever posted on anything like this but i feel like I’m at breaking point.
My husband has always drank a lot of wine but that is normalised in his family who all always have several glasses when we are together. His drinking has always bothered me especially as he’s known for enjoying a few glasses whenever we are with friends but I don’t think anyone appreciates that he drinks at least 2 bottles every single night of the week and turns into someone I can’t stand to look at. He pours a glass as soon as he gets in from work and then can fall asleep within 2 hours occasionally waking up to pour another glass. We have 2 children and my eldest who is now 14 has started to comment to me on his drinking and how she finds it sad. My heart is breaking for my girls who see their dad half asleep and drunk every night and I beat myself up for allowing them to live this way. I don’t drink with them in the house as I feel if something ever happened to them we couldn’t rely on him to help.
I don’t know why I’m pouring all of this out but i have never spoken about his drinking to anyone and how it affects me. I’ve spoken with him and he doesn’t seem to understand or will stop drinking for a few days but it never lasts.
Over the past few months I’ve started feeling more anxious, don’t want to socialise with him and others because he just gets drunk so quickly and I am feeling very lonely and low.
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Hi there, I feel for you and your pain… so much. I am the widow of an alcoholic and he was my Son’s father. So I know all about this…
Drinking 2 bottles of wine a night is not normal, this is alcoholism, it will get progressively worse. You and your children don’t deserve to live with this man.
He will never stop. You must speak your truth…don’t hide it from family and friends. Better to upturn the home and ultimately live peacefully somewhere else. Even if this means that he will go into free fall…Only he can change…but it’s almost certain that he won’t. Why does he have the right to ruin 3 lives? At the moment he’s functioning, but it will worsen. If you need to discuss any of the real horrors as well ( I know about this ), you can with me….My heart goes out to you…I’m a survivor. Please put your own health and your children’s well being first.
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