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Hi I’m hoping some of you might be able to relate to what I am saying, I think my partner of 5 years is alcohol dependent, I don’t use the word alcoholic because I don’t really understand what than means and by all intense and purposes he gets up in the morning and goes of to work no problems but as soon as he walks through the door of an evening he begins drinking, usually beers about 4 – 6 and then usually onto wine and/or whiskey or pretty much anything else we have in the house! With his drinking comes this change in personality, sometimes he can be verbally aggressive, sometimes he can become sarcastic and sometimes it feels like he just constantly ‘picks’ at me does that make sense? I she tried talking to him about his drinking but it feels like I can never win over the booze as far as he is concerned there’s nothing wrong with it and he doesn’t feel he drinks much! I guess my question is how much is too much? Am I being unreasonable saying 4-6 beers and a bottle of wine an evening is too much? Am I being unreasonable to say getting through a litre bottle of whiskey a week is too much and should I just accept his attitude that comes with the drinking after all when he has not been drinking he’s lovely.
Please help, I don’t know where else to turn or even if I am barking up the wrong tree with my thoughts that he is dependent – thank you x
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Hi dragonfly
Welcome to the forum, Everyone here has or is concerned about their loved ones habits or addiction.
Do you think his drinking is getting worse? Is he drinking more than before?
I’m no expert but if he’s relying on it daily and its enough to bother you, he may have an issue or a reliance on alcohol.
The adfam homepage offer advice and support. It might be better to nip this in the bud before it escalates, especially if he’s being mean to you as a result.
Why does he feel he needs to drink daily, do you think? Is he unhappy, or has something happened, work?
My son has alcohol and cocaine addictions, it was a lot worse when he was in his other job, maybe pressure?
He currently almost 90 days clean, working through the 12 steps through AA , doing daily online meetings. It’s wonderful to see him looking so well and so positive. Its a living nightmare living with someone with addiction.
Nothing will improve until he admit s he has a problem and needs help.
Maybe speak to him when he’s in a good, alcohol free mood.
Take care of yourself too.
Lx
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