[danman83]

Hi there.. ive been using coke for 8 years roughly on and off.. i started when i was about 25 after a bad relationship. I am doing my best to stop.. im lapsing roughly once a month. At the start of the year i was 2 month then lapsed.

I cant stand the stuff anymore.. it sends me really depressed and suicidal when its wearing off. And a lot of people have commited suicide from it. A few people i know as well.

To be honest hes young, he is going to want to go out and its everywere now. And i mean everywere. I can get some dropped off in 5 minutes if i wanted to. It was on sky news the other day about how bad the uk is addicted to coke. Its frightning.

My son who has just finished school.. his friends sell it on snapchat for everyone to see! Its crazy!.

If you want your son to stop.. he really does have to want to stop. You can not make him. Im 35 and can cut people off now as i have a family.. but you will find it very hard to tell a 20year old stay away from mates.

Id suggest making him aware of how bad it is.. and how he can be spending money on better things. Maybe sit him down and ask him how often is he using and how much is he spending. But be amicable about it as shouting will just make him have an excuse to use.

[danman83]

I recommend you watch louise clarke on you tube on crack cocaine part 123.. shes an expert and has treated lots of people and explains in great detail what it does.. if your an addict and how to stop. Feel free to ask me out. I can explain more how to help him to stop. But he needs to want to 1st. But the longer the years go by and hes still using. It will get worse.

[scaredmum]

Thanks for replying.

[scaredmum]

I believe he wants to stop using. I know it could be a long process and he’s got so much to loose if he doesn’t.

[danman83]

Well he needs to avoid pubs and clubs for a start.. and alcohol is the main trigger to go and buy coke… so he might not like you telling him this but he needs to stop drinking. Im not going to paint it nice and say he can have a couple just for a meal or something.. because he cant… if he is bad on it… he needs be alcohol free.

Plus he needs delete all dealers numbers out his phone. Not hang around with his mates or fam members that use. Delete all social media. Ive come off facebook and insta.. and it does help a lot.

I also listen to a lot of and watch cocaine recovery stories. These help alot and you can relate to them. Maybe go to C.A meetings as well.. i never have but they do help.

And he needs to turn his routine around.. do new hobbies, set himself task. Like go to the gym.. for 3 month 5 days a week and get to a certain size. Just some goals to acheive, it can be anything readlly. I took up reading and i have never really read. Tell him look up the triggers for emotional, mental and physical relapse.

He needs to tell himself when he wakes up.. hes just going to stay clean for today.. not 3 month.. just today. Its all anout one day at a time.

Im not going to lie its hard.. and his brain will trick him in to getting cocaine.. its a real sneaky drug. He needs to be aware and really want it. Good luck.

Just ask if you need out

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