[exhaustedwife]

My husband is addicted to cocaine

I’ve never wrote anything like this before.

For the past 18months/2years my husband has become dependent on cocaine.

He changed completely, we had a mutual separation in January this year however were still on good terms and spoke about the future. We have 3 children who are so confused.

He would be so paranoid argumentative toxic, blame me for the way things become. He would prioritise cocaine over us. Spend all of our money without a second thought. The lies are the worst I think. I was found messages to another woman asking to meet up however he insists he never acted on it. Over a 10 year period I supported him and helped him.

Last week he went missing for a week and didn’t contact anyone, lots of people were worried sick. He then resurfaced a week later, he had been drinking and taking copious amounts of coke the whole week, says he wants to die etc.

He is claiming he has had a breakdown and is battling with himself and his mind.

He now has no answers or time for me. Won’t speak face to face and I’m not allowed to speak to him incase it upsets.

I don’t know if I’m being selfish but what about me? What about my children?

I didn’t ask for this and feel like my future has been stolen from me. I don’t know if any of this makes sense.

Xx

[moonlight]

My partner was addicted to opium exactly same , money was missing, mistake after mistakes and lies are worse i agree, but i did shout at him i told him i know about his addiction and talk to his family , and pray every night day so he can admit and decide to be sober so a week ago he said he want his normal life back as i tried to be patient and be friend with him, now his is away for 2 weeks for recovery, you are not selfish as you have to be strong for your children and think about yourself but in my experience shouting leaving relationship does not help ,

[exhaustedwife]

Its so so hard. I feel so destroyed. I don’t know who I am anymore. Yet we are the ones who are expected to just pick up the pieces and carry on.

[moonlight]

Exactly put plan together if this way he choose rather than you and his children then let me go , it is hard i know and understand, before my partner decided i put timeline for our relationship 6 month if he changed and chose me then ok otherwise i have to save myself a least one of us is been saved now you two children.

[exhaustedwife]

The relationship is over unfortunately. I love him and have supported him for 10 years. I can’t can’t it anymore. I just need some answers for when he went missing and what he was doing etc.. I need to be able to have closure to move on. X

I hope things with your partner work out and he makes the right choice. X

[moonlight]

Oh ok then 10 years alot of time , thank , i am happy that he choose me over drug and he decided to sort him self for better future for both of us. X i wish you recover soon and get stronger day by day focus on your children you have them and thier love x

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