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I am pretty sure my husband is an alcoholic. I have lived with alcoholics in the past so I know the signs.

However, I am not sure what to do as he is very much in denial and claims he just likes a drink, and is not addicted. But he cannot go more than a few days without it, even when it is detrimental to his health, even when he has to go out of his way to buy it. Even when our monthly budget is running low and I cannot replace the kids’ shoes that have holes in them.

He is very unapproachable on stuff like this, very stubborn to discussion, and tends to use stonewalling with me if I bring up anything to do with him or his health. He sees himself as healthy even when all the signs say otherwise. I am fearful for his health. I see it declining. He has a long family history of serious heart disease. I am also sick of the impact on our family and our young children, as he is reluctant to get involved in family activities unless it involves going somewhere where he can get a beer. Though I love him, that behaviour is taking its toll on our relationship. I have said this to him.

I have raised my concerns from many different angles with him in an effort to approach the subject, but he tells me I am wrong. I know alcoholics needs to admit it to themselves first to do anything about it and I fear it will take something as serious as a big heart attack before he admits to it, but he may not survive something that severe. Our youngest is only three. I worry our children may not have their dad around for as long as they should (I have said this to him).

Is there anything I can do? Any practical steps I can take?

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