[spearce13]

My Husband recently broke down after drinking half a bottle of Gin and hiding it in the garden. He told me he was feeling helpless, His life was boring, We deserved better. Hes been feeling like this for months and has been drinking before i get home from work and sometimes sat in his van outside drinking. We argued most nights as he looked drunker that he was actually admitting drinking. Not even the hard stuff but beer and gin. He’d maybe have 2 bottles of beer in the house but he had obviously had more and he has now admitted to drinking for a while to make his depression seem less. He feels sad most days and just has thoughts of running away. No suicidle thoughts which i believe him.

So his doctor has upped his anti depressants and he has started running. We have sorted his work out (self employed) so he has weekends off. My problem is…my questions are.

How do i not worry if he is drinking before i get home again?

How will i know when hes having a bad day?

How do i know if his problem is alchol or depression or both and which one do you address ?

He doesnt want to talk to a stranger (therapist) but has seemed like his days are better but its only been 4 days without alchol ! He says he doesnt want to drink while he gets better.

I think because he has so cleverly lied for so long i dont know what to believe.

Maybe im over reacting !

[icarus-trust]

Hi

Thanks for posting. I sympathise that you’re worried as it’s hard to watch someone with addictive behaviours. Please consider contacting us at Icarus Trust. We are a charity that supports families dealing with addiction. We have a variety of support which if you get in touch one of our family Friends can tell you about. They are very experienced and trained and will help you to answer the questions that you have and tell you what support there is for you and your husband.

You can contact Icarus Trust on help@icarustrust.org or visit our website http://www.icarustrust.org

Good luck to you.

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