[lianne8815]

Hi all, I’m new here. To cut a long story short my boyfriend has struggled with a cocaine addiction for a long time. After a couple of years of hell, trying to convince him he needs help, he finally got the help he needed and was accepted into a rehab through the nhs 3 weeks ago. I was so very proud of him, for admitting his problems and accepting the help. The rehab seems to be really helping him and I have seen a huge change in him already, personality wise and health wise, however the rehab does let him come and go and he is allowed to come home at weekends, where we live is a big trigger for him, it’s a small town and he knows everyone. The rehab does urine drug tests twice a week and he has been sending me the results every time, not because I’ve asked him too but because he is proud of himself. Now he came home the last two Saturdays and after the first one, I felt his personality changed a bit when I went to visit him on the Sunday, he was a big grumpy like he was on a comedown. I just shrugged it off and thought maybe he was having a bad day, then Tuesday and Friday came, urine test days and he didn’t send me the results. Then Saturday just gone he came home for the day again, and the same happened when I went to visit yesterday, he was grumpy and sniffing all day he looked rough like he was again on a comedown. I’m so worried that if he is relapsing then the rehab may ask him to leave as it’s a clean house, they routinely drug test because all residents have to be alcohol and drug free, they have said they understand that addicts do relapse and it’s all down to how they act about it when and if it happens. Now I’m just wondering I don’t know what to do, do you think I should ring his key worker there to discuss my concerns or shall I confront and ask my boyfriend, however I think he will just get defensive and not see me as trying to help him, he probably won’t tell me the truth either, or shall I just wait and see what happens and let the staff there find out for themselves? Sorry for the long message. Lianne

[icarus-trust]

Hi Lianne,

I can see how worried you are about if your partner’s relapsing from his rehab. May be you would like to contact us at The Icarus Trust as we are a charity that supports people who are dealing with a partner’s addiction. If you contact us, one of our trained people would be able to talk with you and should be able to answer your questions.

You can contact us on help@icarustrust.org or visit our website http://www.icarustrst.org

I hope this is helpful.

Good luck.

[Author]

Posts