[danman83]

Hiya khl.. im 36 now but from 14 to 18 or 19 i was having weed litrally everyday. In the end i hated the stuff. It ruined me progressing in school. But ive done good now.

I guess he has to want to stop. I did a calender and ticked each day off i hadnt used and took up the gym and running. That helped me a lot then. With the drinking ive never been a big drinker. I guess he really does need to go to an AA meeting.. its ok for him to say ill have it twice a week, but if he is an alcoholic thats just not going to work.

Try and persuade him to go to a meeting.

[gabbyf]

Not to be a pessimist or place my own experience on you but they’re selfish people that find a way to push us away and make us feel extremely isolated.

You need to find help for yourself and the strength to do what’s best for you. Easier said than done but if he doesn’t want to help himself, you’ll never convince him to.

[icarus-trust]

Hi,

I’m so sorry to read your post. I know that it’s really hard to cope with your partner’s addiction and I can see how it is affecting you. You’re right it is up to him to want to change but it sounds like you could do with some support for yourself.

I work for a charity called The Icarus Trust. We provide support for people going through what you are, and have trained and very experienced people who understand the things you are dealing with. If you would like to be put in touch with one of our people that you could talk with, please get in touch. May be it would help you to find a way forward.

You can contact Icarus Trust on help@icarustrust.org or visit our website http://www.icarustrst.org

All the best to you.

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