[danman83]

Hiya, hope you are OK? I’m 7 weeks clean now from coke, I’ve been using for 11 years. The last 5 I’ve been doing my best to quit.

1st off he is definitely an addict, he’s using 2 to 3 times a week for 4 month. He will be addicted already. Although if he is telling the truth it being 4 month only, it should be easier to quit.

One of the main triggers for cocaine is alcohol so he needs to quit alcohol as well. If I have 1 can of beer I’m on the phone to my dealer. This is for most coke users. If you don’t know what triggers are, this can be walking past a corner shop where you met a dealer and it just makes you want to get coke. We have loads of triggers so it’s about cutting these triggers out.

If he wants to stop coke. He needs to delete all dealers numbers, friends and family who use. I deleted face book and other social media. You can still message dealers on there.

One of the main side effects and problems with coke is when it’s wearing off u start to feel depressed and suicidal. This can last for days! Then u get more. Its a big vicious circle. This is one of the reasons if not main reason I want to quit. The minute my bag is empty I have to get another and depression kicks in right there. Its horrible, and it is a disease. Some people disagree with this but it’s true.

You say he’s an alcoholic as well. So I guess this is gonna be really hard for him. If he wants to quit he needs to start changing his routine around, eat healthy, take up some hobbies, I’ve took up reading and I listen to recovery stories. I have took up meditation, believe me this helps so much. Do an itinerary plan for each day for task to do. It keeps you busy and from over thinking.

I started CA meetings when I last relapsed 7 week ago. And I have a sponsor. They are all on zoom and help me so much and I wouldn’t of got this far with out it. Would he do these?

Tell him don’t let the god thing put him off you can believe in what higher power you want. I pray everyday now and meditate. Its more better than blowing your money I guess. Feel free to ask me anything

[so1234]

Thank you so much, I really do appreciate it. Since I’m not a user, I honestly don’t know how to help him. I don’t know what triggers him. I don’t know what goes on in his head or how he’s feeling. This does help, thank you

[danman83]

It’s OK. It’s a lot to take in if you have never done it yourself. But this stuff does ruin family’s not just the user. I’d sit down with him and have a good talk, if he wants to quit do some sort of plan of action. But the main thing is, he needs to want to quit for himself. Not just because you want him to, an addict has to do it for them self’s. Then it becomes easier to quit.

[icarus-trust]

So sorry to read your post about your husband’s cocaine use. If you would like to contact us at Icarus Trust we should be able to offer you some support. We are a charity that supports families around addicts and we have experienced trained people you could talk with. This might help you to make sense of what is happening. If you get in touch i can put you in touch with one of our Family friends who will listen and tell you what other support is available.

You can contact Icarus Trust on help@icarustrust.org or visit our website http://www.icarustrust.org

All the best.

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