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I’m sitting upstairs trying to get my head around what to do. My wife is asleep downstairs on the sofa after another drinking bout, the 3rd or fourth in the last week. Last Thursday was the worst for a long time and although horrible beyond words seemed to cause a breakthrough in realisation that she had a problem that was getting well out of hand and the weekend was actually quite relaxed. I arrived home tonight to find her drunk and ranting again, blaming everybody and everything for upsetting her and making her drink. Nothing seems to be out of bounds as an excuse. The worst part is she plays it out in front of our teenage daughters telling them every sordid detail of how her parents had treated her which was not pleasant, and blaming them for not helping around the house when she has not done anything but lie in bed for weeks. It always ends up with her being convinced it is all my fault and threatening to leave. This has been going on for years now and I’m desperately worried it is irreparably damaging everyone around her and backing herself into such a corner she is going to do something really stupid. I love her to bits but it is becoming unbearable and I can feel myself sinking under the weight of it all. The amount of misery she brings into our lives is ridiculous. I really am at a loss of what to do as every option seems to only have a terrible consequence. She’s already in therapy but facing up to things just makes her drink more and it’s like she isn’t going to stop until everyone around her feels as much pain as she does. Not expecting any answers just needed to say it for the first time

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