[panda1234]

So Im new to this chat thing and i would really like some help and advice on what to do. I have suspected my Mum doing drugs for about 2 years but since im only with her every second weekend it was hard to be 100% sure and honestly I didn’t want to believe it. I first started suspecting when i noticed she was like a completely different person when her boyfriend was home from FIFO ( he does 1 week on and 1 off and me and my other brother go on the weekends he isn’t there) I started to get suspicious and concerned for my 2 year old brother at the time (hes 4 now) so I started reading her text messages and found her using drug terms and buying it for hundreds of dollars. I have confronted her twice and she said she didn’t know what I was talking about so I acted like i believed her the last time I asked as I didn’t want her to suspect me still being suspicious. On my 16th bday that just passed my concerns were confirmed by my older brothers girlfriend who has been in our family for 10 years now. One of things holding me back from thinking my Mum was on drugs was them not telling me or seeming like they didn’t realise when she was acting completely different so I was afraid to tell them. The thing is my Mum would never ever admit to it and I cant tell my Dad as I would never see my Mum or my brother ever again and my little brother means the absolute world to me and i protect him in every way that i can but my Mum doesn’t treat him the best for eg she calls him every bad name possible, hits him and has even thrown a spoon at his head for little reasons that a normal person wouldn’t get so angered about and I cry every night when im not there to protect him from her. I really need some advice as I am completely lost on what to do.

[butterfly123]

Hi, I’m so sorry you are going through this. This is just my opinion but I think you really need to talk to someone in order to protect your little brother. It sounds like you love him so much and as hard as it can be to speak out, sometimes that can be the best thing in the long run. Maybe having other people involved will help her see the light? It must be so difficult for you seeing all this and not knowing what to do. Is there someone you could speak to about protecting your brother? Maybe a teacher you trust?

I know from personal experience my dad won’t ever admit taking drugs despite him doing it for over 20 years and me being 30 now. He pretends like it’s nonsense even though it’s ridiculously obvious. I think a big part of it is that he’s ashamed to admit to me, his daughter, that he has a problem as he doesn’t want to disappoint me. Perhaps this is the same for your mum?

I really hope things get better x

[panda1234]

Thank you so much for replying. I have considered going to the school psychologist and talking about my concerns but the only thing thats holding me back is them calling my parents especially my Dad.

I have just been ignoring it for so long because if we all had a good couple of days without her anger or paranoia I would convince myself thats every things fine and I just didn’t want to admit it. My Mum was a former alcoholic and I just thought that maybe she’s just messed up from it still? The thing is I dont want to call her a bad Mum because she seems like she really cares about us because she buys us things and takes us places etc. Also I believed that if things were really that bad that my older brother would step in and do something (hes 25).

Im still weighing up my options on the best thing to do but I still have absolutely no clue but thank you so much for your help.

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