[mum2boyz]

For the past 18 months me and my family have tried to help and support 18 yr old Son who has ran up debt for his cocaine use. It has got so bad that he tells us that he only owes a small amount but the dealers demand more. I’ve had people threaten me. My Son is dishonest and deceitful. He has been able to hold down his job but I think me and my family have been preventing the inevitable such as him losing his job, being without money to get to travel to work or bailing him out if he needs clothes for work. I don’t trust him when he says he’s going out somewhere even if it’s just for a walk. We have a younger son who this is all impacting on and my relationship with my husband too. I have asked my son to think about getting his own place and we will support him to do it or start respecting the rules set in the house. How does everyone else support and manage their relationships with their adult children who have or continue to disrespect your house rules? When is enough, enough to ask them to leave? I’m at my wits end and don’t know where to turn or what to do. I’m fed up hearing it’s what they all do at that age or it will pass. The coronavirus is bad enough but the cocaine pandemic is taking its toll too. Thank you in advance to you all for sharing it has helped me just coming on here, reading and knowing I’m not alone!

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Hi Mum2bOyz,

Welcome to the Forum, it’s a great place to share your story with lots of people (especially Mums with Sons), who are all in the same situation.

To have people threaten you is terrible and must be very frightening.

Cocaine turns them into people that we don’t recognise, it is an evil drug.

My Son is an addict (alcohol and cocaine), he’s doing well at the moment, has been in rehab twice.

It destroys families, my husband left over a year ago, and I think my sons behaviour contributed to him leaving, but to me that’s the easy way out, leaving it all to me.

There are lots of stories on here about Mums and their Sons, reading through these will help.

There is also the Icarus Trust that help people too.

Please take care of yourself, I know it’s really hard, keep in touch with people on here too.

Dx

[mum2boyz]

Thank you so much for your kind welcome. It’s very sad to hear your Husband left you to deal with it but great to hear your Son is doing well at the moment. I hope that one day this will all pass. I am learning each day to deal with it differently and try not to react but it’s difficult worrying if harm is going to come to me and my family because my Sons cocaine use. I will be putting me, my husband and my younger Son first and taking care of myself more. Thank you, take care.

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