[judith19]

Hi, new here. Hope to find some advice or at least comfort in posting this. I’ve been seeing a guy causally for two months or so, and I’m falling for him. He occasionally dabbles with heroin. It’s not often, and I haven’t witnessed him desperately craving it or giving anything up to smoke it (he doesn’t object). But I know that can change in a very short time and I’m terrified that I’m getting involved with someone who will bring me so much pain by ruining himself. I’m falling in love with him and don’t want to end this, but I’m just so scared of what’s ahead if this becomes more than just a monthly occurrence. I don’t know how to talk to him about it without stifling him – I’m not his girlfriend, and have no “right” to tell him what to do, but I don’t want to act like this is fine either. I’m also aware that if I pointed something out he might just feel pressured and break up with me and I’m not ready for that – or for knowing he’s out there possibly using without someone watching over him. I can tell that the answer would be “step away now”, but this isn’t what I want to do at this moment. Any advice of any kind would be so appreciated. X

[judith19]

Object = inject, sorry!

[icarus-trust]

Hi Judith,

Thanks for your post. Its hard what you are going through, knowing that there may be tough decisions ahead.

I’m sure talking with people who would understand would be helpful and wonder if you might contact The Icarus Trust. We are a charity that support people dealing with the addictive behaviours of a friend or family member. If you contact us we would put you in touch with one of our trained and experienced people who would listen to you. Talking with them might help you to decide what to do next.

You can contact us on help@icarustrust.org or visit the website http://www.icarustrust.org

I hope this is helpful.

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