[kel1]

First off I’m sorry to hear yet another story that’s so very sadly destroyed by this drug.

His behaviour is unacceptable, and it’s definitely NOT your fault – how can it be? It’s a cop out classic line “nagging wives/ girlfriends” etc don’t fall for all that noise. This is deflection, avoidance and likelihood of a “come down”. This drug changes people into awful human beings, when once like you said a giving, kind man. Well that’s not him anymore whist on that drug. Sadly it’s best to separate the two – I’ve heard alot of people describe it as “Jekyll and Hyde”. It’s as though these people on drugs are so removed from who they are it’s impossible to have a healthy relationship with them let alone conversations that make any sense.

None of this is your fault, and let’s face it how is getting off your face from that dangerously drug a good way to have “man time” it’s not and those people he does it with aren’t his friends either.

As for him getting another women, well then let him be someone’s else’s problem, as if he continues this way you will go down like a sinking ship with him. Plus, he is hardly going to meet anyone decent and maintain the relationship the way he is.

One day at a time. Try places like Al anon for support, and don’t do what I did which was trying to understand his behaviour/ things he says because it’s completely irrational. He isn’t of sound mind so none of it will make sense. They sit in a state of confusion. It’s a merry go round.

Focus on you now, lots of self soothe and care.

[mm88]

Thank you for the kind advice. I know moving out was the first step for self care. I’ll try to keep moving forward :-/

[sickworried]

I just wanted to reach out and say my thoughts are with you. I am in the middle of it right now with my husband and it is unbearable. Please take care of yourself.

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