[frayedends]

My husband has been abusing alcohol for years, but the past two years have really shone a light on how extensive the problem. It’s not uncommon for him to come home drunk 3+ nights a week. Saturdays are consistent. He’s missing out on so much with our family. I feel like I have to be extra responsible, because he is unpredictable.

Today he came home and was so drunk that he fell inthe shower. He had a huge gash on his chin. I think he may need stitches. He could have hit his head or worse. I need space from this. I hate that our teenage son has to witness this.

I don’t know what I need from this group,but I appreciate being able to put my thoughts down.

[sahara]

Hi, my husband has had the same issue to the point he had bad stomach ulcers. Our teenage son is aware of when he’s under the influence and often times has had to try and help by telling him “dad have you ate today? You need to eat and make him food” I hate that he is aware. At one point we went to the hospital so much from him binge drinking that the hospital was aware of who he was when we went in. I am embarrassed everytime. At one visit the dr was asking questions about how often he drinks and it triggered me bc I felt he was minimizing it, and so I would speak for him. Part of me feels like those visits aren’t for help but for pain killers as well. Which they have given him before but can no longer due to how often he was there for them complaining of ulcer pain. When telling the dr how often he really drinks he got pissed off at me and basically told me to mind my business, when I’m the one here with you at 2am knowing I have work in 6 hours and can’t afford to keep taking off due to your behavior. I actually told the dr “you know what let him fckn kill himself idc anymore” and left the hospital and drove home. I feel bad to this day for saying such things but it just came out of me. Idk what I am supposed to get from this group either, but I just wanted to let you know you are not alone if it helps…

[frayedends]

Thank you. It helps to know I’m not alone.

I told my husband tonight that he needs to start looking at how much he’s drinking. He could hit his head in the shower and seriously hurt himself. He may start to realize h3 has a problem, but I’m not convinced that he’ll do anything to really stop. He’s in denial. I was in denial for years. I get it. I hope he realizes he needs to stop before things ge5 worse.

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