[wheelofyoga@live.co.uk]

Alison here – typo above, it should read:
“….and I’m not included in his life….”

[a-parent-with-hope]

Hi Alison

This is my first ever response or post. I was surfing the web looking for any help I could get with my son & now possibly my daughter!.

I have been going threw tough times too since with my son since he was 15, his now 20.

I have a little understanding where you are coming from, the only thing I can say to you is listen to your instincts. You are not mad, or just distrusting; as parents we have that special connection, gut feelings.

Maybe, try & include yourself a little more into his life or are you scared on knowing?
x

[wheelofyoga@live.co.uk]

thanks for your response.
Well, of course I’m scared of knowing but I’d rather know the truth even so. I agree with your ‘trust in your instincts’ – I always seem to know when things are getting worse even when he denies the truth himself – and I’d much rather he was able to bear the truth himself (and his partner) as that’s the only opening for help, support, improvement and a better life.
I try to be included in his/their lives, but I’m always told “of I’m too busy this weekend/not free that day/ etc.”
I don’t let this stop me trying, and look on it as a good sign that my son stays in touch at all, however tenuously.
Good luck with your children – we keep on keeping on because where there’s life there’s hope.

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