[cant-take-no-more]

Hi Louisa …..its hard being a parent to an addict..we feel their pain, anger, desperation..They are fabulous liars, and yes it is hard to know the truth, and REALLY hard to believe anything they say….. It sounds like she isnt ready to come off the drugs and is merely going through the motions…..I could be wrong… There has to come a point when as a parent you say enough is enough…At the moment she knows you will be there for her, and that is another form of enabling her…….Her going off speaks volumns.. Im pretty sure you know in your heart, why she is acting this way…..The spots, lack of appetite, arguing, going off all lead me to one conclusion…she is still using! We cant save our kids, they have to ask to he helped, and only then can we share their journey and be there for them, and that road is a tough one…Before that happens its very much like ripping your heart out on a daily basis…Think about what you need at this point, because when she is ready, you will need all the strength you can muster to help her and watch her and support her in getting clean….I hope this has helped…you need to take care of you, and I really hope things change in the future and am here if you need to talk xx

[brian]

I agree so much with@cant take no more’ I have learnt that you have to let them go. They know they are loved that we as parents would lay down and die for them. However, as hard as it is, let them go, pray and wait. When they do come back take things slowly, the rtrust may take months or years to build back up. While you are they for them whatever it is a form of enabling them to carry on. They have ownership of the problem they have to take ownership of the solution. Not much help for you at the moment. but i believe that the only chance of saving them is to back off and let them reach rock bottom. Take care Brian

[Anonymous]

Hi Lousia…I over my help and support as well, you can find me on facebook as Hendrik David Duvenhage I would like to hear from you…Regards,Hendrik

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